I read all of your comments, but I don’t have time to respond to all of them.
A number of the comments have focused on how if same-sex marriage becomes normalized that children will learn about it in school, and point to evidence of individual educators in Massachusetts using legalized same-sex marriage to justify advancing a pro-gay agenda. Given the trajectory of gay rights and the increasing permissiveness of the media, I find it unlikely that children will be protected from learning about same-sex relationships by any law.
In fact, just because some parents find an activity morally objectionable does not mean that it is a good idea to make it illegal — especially when it involves taking away others’ rights. There are many perfectly legal things in the world that children need their parents to teach them are wrong. The obvious example of the failure to legally enforce a moral view of the majority is the constitutional amendment known as “prohibition”. By any account, prohibition was an abject failure in eliminating alcohol use and abuse.
Indeed, there are many perfectly legal yet (to some) “morally objectionable” things in the world we live in. Tobacco, alcohol, and pornography are legal for adults and widely accessible to children. (In my Utah junior high school, I routinely encountered all three.) Any child can turn on the TV or browse the Internet and hear profanity. The “F-Bomb” is perfectly legal to say (if not broadcast.)
Making same-sex marriage illegal will not change the fact that millions of people belong to families with same-sex parents, and children are likely to hear about or meet these people, whether the parents are married or bound in a civil union. If parents believe that same-sex marriage or same-sex relationships are immoral, then it is their duty to teach this to their children, just as Mormons have long taught their children that profanity, coffee, tea, alcohol, tobacco, pornography, fornication, and other perfectly legal things in the world are wrong.
When I visited potential colleges, one of my hosts thought it would be a good time to offer the visiting high school seniors beer and pornography. The other guests in my room, football recruits, indulged with gusto. My parents and church had taught me that these things were wrong, and, for the first time in my life actually pressured by friends to indulge, was prepared for it and politely declined.
It is not hard to teach a second grader that some children have two mommies. In fact, if they live in many places, they will learn this from their peers without any assistance from the schools. It is also not hard to teach a second grader that “some people believe it is OK for two women to get married, but our family does not believe that.” One does it the same way one teaches a second grader that “some people believe it is OK to drink tea, or eat pork, or watch R-rated movies; our family does not.” I read books about children drinking iced tea when I was a child, but I knew that it was something our family and church believed was wrong.
Finally, in a shout-out to my own parents, I think they did an exceptional job in raising me even if we disagree on the LDS Church’s stance on Proposition 8. They taught me not only a set of particular guidelines for personal behavior as dictated by the LDS Church, but also how to think for myself and judge for myself what is right and wrong, based on the most fundamental principle of the Gospel: “love one another”.